"Figuring it Out"

Through many years of observing myself and others, I discovered how so much of our conversations are dedicated to “figuring out” the other.  I’ve noticed when two or more women get together for example the conversation eventually involves seeking advice for the present trouble with their men. The advice sought revolves around trying to “figure him out,” understand his motives, how to allay the tension there, what he wants of “me,” what’s upsetting him, how to fix things, to get a divorce or not, and the like.

My remedy for “figuring out” the other is STOP.  You/we have enough trouble “figuring” ourselves out, no less having to know the other.  Instead, the first order of business is to “figure” ourselves out.  Come to understand ourselves and know ourselves.  When we do this, we find that the answers we seek are already inside ourselves.

To know self is an elemental purpose of our existence for all humanity.  All spiritual practices are geared toward this aim: know thyself.  Within that aim lies the foundation of “figuring it all out”. Stay tuned for my follow-up blog on knowing yourself as a key to successful relationship.